Tell it like it is

So… as I’ve posted here before, my mom is following my lead and hitting the online dating thing this year. Her current goal is to write to and meet enough men each month to qualify for that six months free if you don’t find someone in the first six months.

What I love about my mom is that she’s reached an age where she has no problem saying exactly what’s on her mind. Case in point, this email that she recently sent to a man after he wrote her her and she checked out his profile:

Dear Mr. X, I'm curious. You list your age as 70, and yet you're only willing to date women 44-60? What's wrong with women over 60?

Just very curious, and it seems that even the oldest men on match are unwilling to even consider a women more than 10 years younger than themselves. I'm a very youthful, fit mature woman. Maybe I should only date men 34-50?

Yes, she actually sent that. I heart her.

Last week, this guy asked her if, instead of emailing, she’d like to cut right to meeting for coffee. Here was her initial response:

I would definitely be open to meeting. I think it's wise.

From what I've read/seen on Discovery Channel/heard from other men, a man knows if he likes a woman within the first few seconds of meeting. A woman may take several dates to know, because she's interested in more than just looks. This seems true to me. I'm not saying that men are shallow, but that they're wired to either be attracted or not in just a few moments.

So, I guess, the thing is to meet to see if you think I'm ok for you. :D

Tell ya what. If after 5 seconds, you think I'm not good for you, please let me know, and I'll be on my way. Don't think you have to be "polite." Please don't try to walk me to my car and catch a feel before you email me telling me we're "not a match" or just forget about me altogether. I know I'm cute and sexy and helpful, kind, happy, smart, loving and productive, so it doesn't matter if you think I just won't make the cut for you. If you already know I can't, then I don't want to spend two hours hearing about your life story. Does that sound fair?

But, in the end, we both deiced that might sound just a tad jaded, so she ended up going with an alternate response instead:

A meeting sounds lovely. What time?

Much shorter, much sweeter, and, as it turned out, she did meet him and her assessment was, “He wasn’t lame.” Always a good start to a relationship. I’ll let you know how things progress.

In the meantime… anyone else been doing any dating? Come on, I’m living vicariously now. Spill it, gals.


~Trigger Happy Halliday