You Know When You're in Love When... A Hero's Top Ten List

By Robin 'Red Hot' Kaye


I recently wrote a blog about that moment you know you’re in love. It was a top ten list for my heroines—who tend to have a more difficult time realizing they’re in love.

For some reason, my heroes are usually faster out of the blocks than my heroines when it comes to the whole love issue. I don’t know if this is because I tend to write difficult women who really have no need for a man in their lives, or because I enjoy watching a man chase the woman and drag her kicking and screaming into the deep abyss of love with him. It’s probably the latter because really, what woman alive doesn’t want to be wooed or pushed and pursued? Yeah, let’s face it, we all get a little bit weak-kneed when we see a man willing to chase a woman, doing all sorts of embarrassing things to win her heart.

So let’s examine the hero’s top ten list—You know you’re in love when…

10. You find yourself calling her to tell her you’re meeting your buddies for a basketball game and beer. Granted, you’re not asking permission, you’re just checking in with her…gulp.

9. You don’t like the fact that your friends think your girlfriend is hot—something that’s never bothered you with any other girlfriend. It’s one thing for you to picture your girlfriend naked; it’s a whole other thing for your buddies to.

8. You buy her some of those women’s razors so she isn’t tempted to use yours when she spends the night.

7. You go to spend the evening with her even though she’s sick and you know you won’t be getting any...anything other than exposure to the creeping crud and the don’t-touch-me-I’m-sick look.

6. You find yourself stopping to pick up movies that can’t be played in a Godfather marathon, starring people like Drew Barrymore, Julia Roberts, and Sandra Bullock instead of Bruce Willis, Arnold Schwarzenegger, and The Rock.

5. You agree to go shopping with her and when you realize you’re the only man holding a purse and not wearing a wedding band, you might start to sweat but you don’t run.

4. You notice every other man who notices her, and want to pound him into the pavement when he does.

3. Your medicine cabinet contains condoms and her toothbrush, a basket of make-up suddenly appears on the counter and you don’t freak when you reach under the sink and instead of discovering a roll of toilet paper, your hand hits a box of tampons.

2. You realize Chocolate is a major food group for her and you purchase so much of it, you consider buying stock in Ghiradelli.

And the number one reason you know you’re in love is:

You’re a guy. You look at her one day, and you just know.

Domestic Gods

I realized today that while I’ve been blogging here for a month or so, I really haven’t talked about what I write. I thought I’d take this opportunity to introduce you to my books.

Romeo, Romeo, Too Hot to Handle, Breakfast in Bed, and Yours for the Taking (coming out in January) are the books in my Domestic Gods Series.

When I tell people that I write about Domestic Gods, everyone assumes I write paranormal romance. I don’t—I write contemporary romantic comedy. Though I must admit that some people who have read the series tell me they consider my books fantasy—maybe because real men like my Domestic God heroes are few and far between. But rest assured, ladies, since I’ve been married to one for twenty-one years, I can prove the existence of at least one Domestic God.

The best way I know of to describe my brand of hero is to share my favorite Top Ten list:

Top Ten Reasons Why Women Love 
Domestic Gods


10. Domestic Gods know how to separate laundry and are man enough to buy and care for fine washables.

9. Domestic Gods like more power...in their women, their cars, their vacuums, and their household cleaners.

8. Domestic Gods do manly things - like lift the couch with one hand to vacuum under it.

7. Domestic Gods don't question their sexuality -- being a good cook and knowing how to clean doesn't make them effeminate. It makes them independent.

6. A Domestic God knows the way to a woman's heart is to show he's capable of killing bugs, scrubbing toilets, washing windows, keeping her well fed and satisfied in bed.

5. A Domestic God knows there's nothing sexier than a man cleaning the bathtub for the woman in his life and then joining her in it.

4. Domestic Gods don't expect their woman to be a maid unless said woman is into playing dress-up. Then, they prefer the French variety--feather duster included.

3. Domestic Gods can fix your car and fix you a five-course meal.

2. Domestic Gods not only respect women, they care for and about them.

And the number one reason women love Domestic Gods is...

Drum roll please….

Domestic Gods are as good in the kitchen as they are in the bedroom.


So tell me, do you know any Domestic Gods? Are they really as rare as most assume? And if you were to add something to my list, what would it be?