tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542417548623715196.post1800488686602981005..comments2023-11-03T08:03:15.599-05:00Comments on Killer Fiction: The Mating Dance--Then and NowKathy Bacushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07549844839816876766noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542417548623715196.post-6499070930906995272012-06-27T08:31:28.195-05:002012-06-27T08:31:28.195-05:00That's wild. When I dated, back in the 90'...That's wild. When I dated, back in the 90's, you played the field. It was fun. Just like you described. Why get exclusive until you actually get to know someone?Angie Foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05843918280581285622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542417548623715196.post-5772418331459048132012-06-26T12:12:42.434-05:002012-06-26T12:12:42.434-05:00I'm 40 and single but I don't date. If I d...I'm 40 and single but I don't date. If I do, then I focus on one at a time but I thought that was only my hang up as a serial monogamer. Or however you'd spell that.<br /><br />Kiddo is about to 13 and her friends are already "dating". It's always exclusive immediately now that I think about it. <br /><br />I think for 20-somethings, it's still go out on a couple dates and keep your options open, but I don't know many 20-somethings. There's a couple of new ones here at the office. I may take an unscientific poll and see what they'll share.Terri Osburnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17176989488447450585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542417548623715196.post-68511983565956590822012-06-26T10:20:05.527-05:002012-06-26T10:20:05.527-05:00I think the invisible element in play now is the a...I think the invisible element in play now is the assumption among young people that if you're "dating" someone, you're intimate with them, so of course, you wouldn't date a bunch of people at once.<br />As a Mom, this terrifies me. It's some comfort to know I terrified my mom, and she terrified hers.Grace Burroweshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01631291702461834307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542417548623715196.post-8257807834512135512012-06-26T09:26:26.354-05:002012-06-26T09:26:26.354-05:00Oh Amanda--Do I ever feel old and not a little bit...Oh Amanda--Do I ever feel old and not a little bit slutty. LOLRobin Kayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16262933225938609682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542417548623715196.post-87648557765459472062012-06-26T09:03:14.942-05:002012-06-26T09:03:14.942-05:00Oh, and my mom was horrified during my teen years ...Oh, and my mom was horrified during my teen years that accepting a date with a boy meant that you would be boyfriend and girlfriend and exclusive. She couldn't understand why we didn't go out with lots of boys. I told her that's what sluts did. <br /><br />:(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542417548623715196.post-70607213045211211232012-06-26T09:02:03.987-05:002012-06-26T09:02:03.987-05:00You just described dating during my teen years. If...You just described dating during my teen years. If you go out on a date with someone, you're "going out" which is considered exclusive. One date can lead to boyfriend/girlfriend status, which usually eventually leads to breaking up (and sadness, crying, etc).<br /><br />It wasn't until my 20s (out of college) that I discovered that dating is different from "seeing someone" or even "dating someone." The latter two are exclusive, but the first means you're going out on a bunch of dates with a variety of guys to see which you'd like to become exclusive with.<br /><br />(I'm mid-30s now, btw. And been married 8 years.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542417548623715196.post-36478204198086762702012-06-26T08:59:55.163-05:002012-06-26T08:59:55.163-05:00Sorry Stacey! I meant this as an information gathe...Sorry Stacey! I meant this as an information gathering blog not a warning blog.Robin Kayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16262933225938609682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542417548623715196.post-56446229366900931372012-06-26T08:48:31.977-05:002012-06-26T08:48:31.977-05:00Great, Robin, I've got that to look forward to...Great, Robin, I've got that to look forward to with my two younger ones? *rolls eyes* I can't wait. LOLStacey Joy Netzelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13908548379784017162noreply@blogger.com